Easy or Hard, You Get to Decide
I am realizing that your belief about a certain situation, circumstance or project can have a profound affect on how it all turns out. Will it be easy or hard?
Lately, I’ve realized it has been a real struggle trying to get different projects off the ground and out the door. I realize that I’ve been feeling more and more overwhelmed and as I become more aware of my thoughts, It has become pretty obvious, that a lot of them are not so nice. Alright, since we are being honest, my thoughts have been just plain ole negative.
I realize that I had decided beforehand that certain projects were going to be difficult, hard or there will be some type of hiccup to make everything complicated. Wouldn’t you know it something would come up and throw me off my game? I was self-prophesizing and then I am all smug about, thinking, I told you so.
I realize that maybe my thinking had something to do with my process.
Just like the girl in the picture above, I hit myself on the head and thought I could have done this project the easy way? A reminder of the old commercial, where you get on the head and the voiceover actor says, “I could had a V-8”.
Okay, I digress. Now back to my regular scheduled programming.
As I was sharing, I decided to see what would happen if I did a little experiment:
I was going to go into my next project with the expectation that it was going to be easy and turn out completely wonderful.
What do you know, my experience turned out well and most importantly leading up to the event was more pleasant.
Does that mean everything went perfectly? That would be a big fat, NO. However, the solutions to fix whatever hiccups came about much easier and quicker.
These are some tips that I used and you can try.
Perhaps they can help you take it easy, so it can be easy.
- I made a decision to trust myself.
- Surrounded myself with supportive people who would uplift and encourage me.
- Stop trying to control everything and everyone around you.
- Celebrated the good things in my life.
- I said “bye bye bye” (a little tribute to N’SYnc) to Perfectionism
Trusting yourself is something I hear a lot of nowadays. I find that I am just plain scared because I so desperately don’t want to make a mistake.
I do find that those times that I have listened to my inner voice, through whatever means, whether a feeling in my gut or I catch a flash of something written down, things seem to run much smoother for me.
I made a decision for the project I was working on to believe that I could make good decisions and if any challenges came up I could handle it.
I surrounded myself with supportive people who would uplift and encourage me. I believe support is essential. The lone wolf thing can add too much stress to an already overwhelming situation. When you have people in your corner to hold your vision or hold a positive belief for you, on those days you don’t feel so mighty; that can be enough to get you back on track.
When you have people in your corner to hold your vision or hold a positive belief for you, on those days you don’t feel so mighty; that can be enough to get you back on track.
Stop trying to control everything and especially everyone. This is coming from the top chief control freak. Lately, I have become aware of how exhausting it is to try and control situations and people.
I realize that this is residue from my childhood and having so little control over my environment, I have tried, with not a lot of success to control everything in my life and when I can’t, it has been devastating to me.
I know intellectually, that the only thing I can control is me and choices that I make and how I respond to situations or circumstances. However, on an emotional level, I am still healing this one.
Made a decision to celebrate the good in my life. I have been doing a gratitude journal every evening, where I name at least three things I’m grateful for that day. I have noticed that I have been too relaxed about it.
I have been writing them down very carelessly and repeating things over and over. I decided to refocus with more intention and not only write out what I am grateful for, but also why I am grateful for that person or thing in my life and thought it could be more effective for me. I also decided to trust more in the belief that the universe was and is conspiring for my good and in my favor.
I also decided to trust more in the belief that the universe was and is conspiring for my good and in my favor.
Saying goodbye to perfectionism. I believe that perfectionism and control are siblings. They seem to go hand in hand in my life. I am attempting to become comfortable with the words “good enough” and “progress not perfection”.
I believe for me and perhaps you too, that perfectionism can be used as the biggest excuse for not living our dreams and having the bold magnificent life you and I absolutely deserve. ———————————————————————————-
So, perhaps, Trusting ourselves, making sure we have at least one other person in our corner, letting go of trying to control others, focusing on the good already in our lives and being happy with good enough, these things can help us move through our day to day lives with ease. These things can help us let life be easy.
Why don’t you try it for a day, a week, a month or whatever time frame works for you, I will continue on this path too. Let’s take the time to see what it does for our lives. Hey, if you hate the idea and it completely sucks, you can always go back and pick up the struggle and go bak to believing life is hard; I’m sure struggle, strife, and negativity, would welcome you back with open arms.
However, let’s say hello to Easy and see what that relationship can become and what effect that can have in our lives.
Let me know in the comments below, what way or ways you are trying to bring some ease to your life.
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Until next time,